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Holidays are approaching and teachers are busy in preparing the assignments for summer holidays. Let’s try to follow some basic ways to make THE HOMEWORK a fun task for the kids
Like most families, you and the kids are probably looking forward to a break from the normal hectic routine. No rushed mornings, and lots of downtime spent with loved ones. While your holiday to-do list may include baking, swimming, extra-curricular activities and travelling, there’s one to-do item that shouldn’t be overlooked this holiday season: LEARNING. Scheduling holiday learning keeps kids on track academically, maintains school habits, and helps make the transition back-to-school post-holiday that much smoother. It helps in reinforcing the learning of the classroom and also gives ample time to the kids to explore and research more on the ongoing themes. As Newton’s laws are applied everywhere to understand the motion. The laws here will help parents and children to have learning time the most enjoyable time of the day. Let’s make their study time so interesting that they should look forward for it.
Remove the word homework from vocabulary. Make it a learning\study time. This will also help the kids in learning something in absence of homework.
Parents cannot insist the kids to do their homework, they can assist by sending positive invites to the kids. Avoid power struggle during learning time. Your child needs guidance from you, don’t try to cross the hair line difference of guidance and over functioning. As a parent we should understand that guidance does not mean doing his spelling homework for him. Rather, it’s helping him review his words.
Make a proper schedule. It should be followed religiously from parents end. Kids may resist to follow the routine, but persistence and perseverance are the keys here. But at the same time keep the schedule predictable and easy. Give them some five minute warning time before making them to sit for study time. Avoid last minute assignment completion as it hampers the creativity of a kid. Give them break during learning time and it can be in a form of five minute dance, some yoga pose or running around, you can also join them to burn some calories.
Replace materialistic and external awards with encouraging verbal word of appreciation. Rewards can be inclusion of physical activities. Baking is another great way to incorporate these skills, as well as sharpen their math abilities. Ask your kids to help you out by measuring ingredients and reading recipes to help them practice regular school activities. Different craft activities can be planned. Eg. Organizer can be made out of waste and can be used while during homework.
Form a quiet, neat and colourful learning station for the kids to do learning time. All the required stationary and other items should be arranged and available beforehand. Try to reduce noisy and external disturbance during learning time. Arrange a place for them, like a small notice board, hanging rope to showcase their learnings and creations (like paintings, cards, poems).
So gear up for the holidays and learning time and make these vacations the most memorable ones.
CONFIDENCE IN KIDS
Let’s face it kids now a days don’t have it easy. It takes guts to be a kid in today’s world. Whether going to a new school or facing the class to read a report , kids have to battle out a lot.
But we as parents cannot and shouldnot fight their battles for them. Because if we do so we would not be raising them to grow up into confident and competent people.
Instead of constantly monitoring their work and performance and make them feel less confident and competent we can follow a general guideline while dealing with children.
The first rule should be “DON’T RESCUE YOUR CHILD” .
In discussion about whether kids today are “ spoiled” its common to hear accusations that we as parents are over protecting . This is anxiety provoking for any parent , because the line between appropriate support and helicoptering is rarely clear and it becomes all the more invisible when we are blinded by parental instinct. Its always like that a helicopter parent is someone who hovers more than you do.
Its only natural to want to prevent your child from getting hurt , feel discouraged or making mistakes, but when you intervene you are not doing any favours. Kids need to know that its ok to fail, that its normal to feel sad, anxious or angry.
We are told that failure is good for kids and builds resilience, the fact of the matter is that resilience comes not from failures but from picking up and trying again. From the experience of learning that its worth to pick yourself up and try again.
COMPLEMENT WITH CARE:
Of course compliments play an important role and encourage kids whether they are learning to crawl or throw a ball. But don’t let your child get used to praise so much that he has a hard time realizing when his accomplishments are really worth celebrating. There are letter ways to build self esteem then heaping on praise for everything even every day things that they are supposed to do like brushing their teeth.
Infact , by over praising kids we’re doing more harm than good. We are lowering the bar. If you keep telling your child that she is doing a great job than you are saying she no longer needs to push herself.
LET THEM MAKE DECISIONS:
When kids make their age appropriate choices, they feel powerful. Psychologists say that kids as young as two can start considering the consequences of their decisions. You can start by small things like what to wear or whether they need to wear a coat, hat or mittens in the winter. Once they can differentiate between warm and cold they can make a choice and be responsible for themselves.
Let them PURSUE THEIR INTEREST ( FULLY)
Another surefire way of boosting confidence is to encourage them to take on tasks they show interest in, then make sure they follow through to completion. It doesn’t matter what the task is whether a video game level or the number of laps in swimming pool. The point is that they learn to finish what they start and not get discouraged midway and quit without giving it their 100 %.
FOCUS ON GLASS BEING HALF FULL:
If your child feels defeated , help her to be more optimistic by trying to focus on the ways to improve rather than giving up. For example if she did not get the lead in the school play than help her to focus more on improving her abilities so that she gets it the next time rather than sulking.
So these are a few pointers as to what we as parents can do to make our children more confident and competent and ready to face the world. Remember confidence and competenc are skills that don’t happen overnight. Like all skills they need practice so we have to be patient and consistent in our parenting.
Effective ways to improve Concentration in childrenIt is said “The ability to concentrate and to use time well is everything."
It’s our duty as parents and teachers to help them develop self-discipline and teach them effective focus strategies and concentration skills at an early age which is the basis for long term success in life.
There are some effective techniques to help the child and it pays to start as early as possible.
• Set a routine, daily goals and try and follow them as much as possible. It really helps in motivating children. Let the older sibling and yourself set an example by following a routine in your daily life.
• Try and manage distractions. Like setting down a rule that no phone, music and screen time etc. till the homework is done. Total silence is not required as studies have shown that some kind of music help people concentrate better. You can test it with your kid as to what kind makes him\her work better.
• Meditation (preferable techniques) along with soothing music will help in increasing the attention span and hence the focus.
• Show by example. You do your homework too. If possible use this time to quietly do your work as well. Children tend to pick up habits from elders. So try to limit the use of phones and other gadgets yourself as much as possible during that time.
• Create a designated place that has least amount of traffic within the house for working. A place for independent study perhaps a quite corner.
• Rewards can be controversial but the fact remains that humans respond well to positive reinforcements. You can use them to motivate them.
• Create or set up a board or chart. For every successfully completed assignment post a star on the chart. Review it at a regular stipulated intervals and reward according to the number of stars earned. Reward could be any thing ranging from a favorite meal to an extra time on the internet.
• Sometimes the reason for lack of concentration could be physiological. So make sure your child is well rested and fed before starting his or her day.
• Introduce sequencing and organization. The link between them is a strong one and activities like following a recipes, setting a table putting things in alphabetical order work great with children with concentration issues.And lastly remember that any skill like concentration can be improved with practice. Also that every child is different and you as a parent is the best judge of what is best for your child. HAPPY PARENTING